Do you know the number one reason why people don’t adopt? THE COST. Every adoption is different, but most (besides foster care) have a hefty number that separates you from your child. Now, there are various reasons for why this is and there are many opinions surrounding this topic that I’m not going to dive into in this specific post. But many people have asked why our specific adoptions are so “expensive” and I wanted to explain each and every fee that we have to pay in order to bring our children home and how it ends up equaling around $50,000. We understand that if we are going to continue fundraising that people need to understand where this money is going! I also want people to understand that there are very real children waiting on the other side of all of these fees, all of this paperwork, all of this fundraising. But let’s dive into the fee breakdown first, shall we?!
- Application Fee: $350. This fee covers the review of our application to confirm eligibility for the Thailand program.
- Processing Fee #1: $1,950. This fee covers Holt’s (our placing agency) cost to facilitate our adoptions with U.S. and Thai government officials.
- IAAME Fee: $1,000. This fee is to the Department of State; responsible for monitoring all international adoption activity.
- Home Study Fee: $3,450. This fee pays for our home study as well as our post-placement reports required by Thailand after we arrive home with the kids.
- Psychologist Evaluation: $200. This fee covers someone writing on letterhead that we are sane enough to be parents.
- Processing Fee #2: $3,000. This fee also covers Holt’s cost to facilitate our adoptions and also covers registration and translation costs related to submitting our dossier.
- Adoption Program Fee for TWO children: $26,720. This is the big one, y’all! It is what we are mainly fundraising for! It covers all costs related to Tee and Prinna’s adoption process in Thailand. This includes but is not limited to:
- The care of Tee and Prinna prior to adoption (food, clothing, medical care, foster care and any other services provided directly to them). Tee requires a significant amount of medical care and we also know that they are in a wonderful and loving foster home, so we very much understand this aspect of this fee and we are extremely thankful for the care our kiddos are receiving.
- Their Thai passports, visas, and medical exams.
- Costs associated with obtaining child updates (the social workers typically have a lot of traveling each time they visit our kids).
- Costs for personnel, administrative overhead, training and education both in the U.S. and Thailand. These social workers are awesome and we can tell they have been very well-trained.
- Legal adoption services (all the work with government agencies).
- Child welfare projects in Thailand. We have been there, seen it, and know they do some great work. The Holt Sahathai Foundation is AMAZING.
- Immigration Fees: $1,245. These fees basically cover the U.S. giving us “permission” to adopt these kids.
- Children’s Visa Fees: $650. Tee and Prinna’s U.S. visas.
- Travel Fees: $12,000. This can greatly vary depending on when we travel, but this is our best estimate based on our trip to bring Kai home. Kai will probably be coming back with us, so a two-three week trip to Thailand for a family of five is definitely not cheap.
- Finalization Fees: $1500 (or more). Because the adoptions are not finalized in Thailand, we have to hire an attorney to finalize them here in the U.S.
- Certificates of Citizenship: $2,340. Our children become citizens once their adoptions are finalized, but this fee covers the piece of paper that proves it.
Total: $54,415
(What we still owe as of 10/19/19: $39,800)
Is your head spinning yet?! Mine is. Numbers are scary. Every time we look at these fees we have to look with some major eyes of faith or it can be completely overwhelming!
While some of these fees may not make sense to us, or while some of them may just be plain unreasonable, it is what it is. We can’t change the numbers, but we can change the lives of the kids who are waiting behind them. Because that’s what it’s all about: the kids who are waiting. They aren’t the numbers, they aren’t a number, they aren’t a statistic, and they aren’t a cute picture on a waiting list.
They are real.
They have experienced real trauma. They have real medical conditions. They have real feelings, real personalities; real wants and needs. They have real brokenness and real joy. They are beautifully made by a real Creator who knows every real hair on their head and who has held every very real tear they have cried.
And two of them are ours.
We can provide for them once we get them home, but we do need help in bringing them home. So we will keep saving, we will keep applying for grants like it’s our full-time job, and we will keep planning fundraisers and make ourselves annoyingly post and share while praying for others to join us in knocking these numbers out of the way all the way to Thailand and back.